AFFIRMATION POSITIVE
and negative self talk
Psychologists estimate that about 72% of our self-talk is self-critical or negative!
To put in perspective how bad this affects us, here's an example:
Say you have a bad argument or a negative, conversation with someone (who is criticizing you) that lasts, say 15 minutes. Try and think back to an argument or negative conversation you might have had where you felt upset as a result.
Imagine how these words affected you. Imagine how it made you feel.
The likelihood is that you would then experience some negative thoughts and feelings because of that negative conversation. And these negative thoughts may also trigger physical reactions, which include tension or your heart rate getting faster for example.
That's a big effect for only 15 minutes of negative or critical conversation!
So just think how badly affected you are by your thoughts, when you are around your own negative, stressful, worrisome or self-critical self-talk twenty-four-seven!!!
When you think about it, you talk to yourself (by way of your thoughts) every waking moment of your life. No-one can hear those thoughts – that inner-dialogue. No-one can hear them but you.
And no-one can control them but you…
So pay attention to your internal dialogue. If you are depressed, then your internal dialogue is probably very negative.
Keep your AFFIRMATION POSITIVE! Be aware of what you say to yourself. Learn to thinking positively by purposefully saying positive affirmations to yourself. They can really help to turn your thoughts around...
Remember that you are with yourself twenty-four-seven, so being around your negative thoughts all the time is bound to worsen your depression. You are your own company after all.
So try to think as positively as you can. But how?
What can you do to change your thoughts to more positive ones?
Keep your AFFIRMATIONS POSITIVE
Nothing in this world is more important than a healthy state of mind. You sleep better…
...things are easier to cope with… life is exciting… you feel motivated and enthusiastic… everything is an exciting opportunity…
The good news is that there are ways to learn a more positive way of thinking – of learning a calmer, more relaxed state of mind.
Meditations, positive affirmations (AFFIRMATIONS POSITIVE), gratitude journals, and self-talk, are all ways that can help to change your thought patterns (but if you are moderately or severely depressed, then you should consult your doctor who will prescribe you a more appropriate course of action).
a healthier state of mindIt's like planting a seed. Nourish your mind with continued repetition of positive affirmations ((AFFIRMATIONS POSITIVE)) everyday and you will find yourself beginning to think more calmly and positively.
Give yourself time for the positive talk (AFFIRMATIONS POSITIVE) to sink into your psyche – it takes time.
keep your AFFIRMATIONS POSITIVE & repeat them often...Repetition is the key. Like a seed growing, the more you nourish your mind with a particular positive thought, the more powerful it will become in your mind.
So keep your AFFIRMATIONS POSITIVE and repeat them every day.
Positive Company Keeps You THINKING POSITIVE LY
Just like you need to fill your head with positive thoughts (THINKING POSITIVE LY), you should try surrounding yourself with positive people.
They will lift your morale and you'll be surprised at how quickly their positivity will rub off on you.
If your friends or family are negative or depressed themselves, it may unfortunately hinder your recovery from depression.
It doesn't mean ditching them! It just means that broadening your circle of friends and associates might be worth considering.
You should make a conscious effort to be around positive people as much as you can, at least for the time being.
For friendship and support, try Sleepydust's FMS and CFS http://www.sleepydust.net/FIBROMYALGIA-FORUM.html.
Another way of learning ways of THINKING POSITIVE LY is to read books by postive authors. After all – books are written by people!
So if you can't be around people who are THINKING POSITIVE LY...
...then surround yourself with books written by people who are THINKING POSITIVE LY!
But beware – not all books will make you feel better and some might even make you feel worse!
DEPRESSION HELP & SUPPORT
Depression is a very lonely and soul-destroying condition.
Don't go through it alone. There is DEPRESSION HELP out there.
Don't be afraid to ask for help from your friends, family and doctor.
There are also support groups, associations, and help-lines whose sole purpose is to give you the support you need.
So you really are not alone!
What's more, there's lots of help online too!
So give it a go...
Thank You, wealth of information!!! How true, the way you look at yourself is soooo important!!!
RKA
Idol ji I liked ur thread. I know many will be ignoring it. thinking that these things are for psychiatric patients or for over Stressed students. I think they are wrong. ALL of us shd follow these thngs for more happiness.
HF is vary vast.. tht s why I missed this thread. Soon I will start one thread on similar lines.......but with music angle.
will visit again.......abhi thoda jaldi mein hoon
sonu
Depression aided with no help to handle failures ends up fatal. Offlate many kids who have flunked exams have started taking extreme steps by ending their lives.
Wish there were more failure management Counsellors available in schools and colleges!!!!!!!!!!! Peer pressure, parents pressurizing the kids .. phew!! Education has become a burden than a illuminating a child's future.
Sonu Delhi mein already 2 such cases ka report bhi aaya hai
N
thank to all for likin this topic..................
ur right nimz................i guess big universities need well trained psycholgists to help students overcome obstacles
After you're over your depression, you'll still encounter occasional bad moods. Nonetheless, realising that bad moods aren't intolerable, and that you can do something about them may help prevent them from spiralling into a longer-lasting depression. Here are some tips for handling the blues and keeping upbeat.
Chomping on chocolate
Various types of food reputedly affect moods. People probably turn to chocolate as frequently as they do any of the other mood-altering foods. A host of the substances found in chocolate have been cited as being responsible for its mood-lifting effects. However, some researchers believe that chocolate, like most especially palatable foods, alters mood primarily by causing a release of endorphins, the brain's opiates. If you find that chocolate works for you, indulge a little when a bad mood sets in.
Warning
If you're a chocoholic, and you feel pronounced guilt when you indulge in chocolate, this isn't the food for you when you feel low. Guilt will only deepen your funk. As with all things, moderation is the key.
Doing something nice
Doing something nice for someone else is one of the best ways you can extricate yourself from a bad mood. It helps you refocus your attention away from what put you in the bad mood and onto other people, in a positive way. And your improved mood is likely to last a lot longer than it will with other nice, quick fix pleasures like
My Notes:
Subject: Tone
People use different tones while they are speaking. word means something litrary, but the tone might be an internal emotion for the time being. we , often, get hurt and get deceived with words. i write a shortstory to illusterate the point.
-a boy and a girl are in luv.....due to circumstances, one goes to another country........at the time when girl used to say " i luv u" was passionate, pure and helpless.............four months later........the boy said i luv u..........sounded content, patient and compromising .................two years later, he says the same word, but tone is totally off...................it doesn't touch ur heart anymore........
OR:-
-a nice and caring friend promises that whenever u need to go to shopping , he can give u a ride.....................after a while, he repeats the same word but with frusteration...........he seems to be chained with the word that he's not willing to achieve it anymore..........here comes the term TONE..........the tone that was required at the beginning was a spark of emotion.......and this makes huge difference in our lives
people's sixth sense is stronger than the five ones..........caoz the sixth can hear,see,taste,touch, and can smell danger, changes, and problem from a very long distance.........like u can say, one smells danger
Point: is that we need to perdict the situation before it happens and hurts..........it will save people from being betrayed, embarrassed, and hurt........it is like regular doctor check up.........check friend, love's tone everytime he/she makes the statement.......dun expect exact or more, and u will be safe........Good Luck!
Ayyo me is depressed now only
N
Idol good notes( made by u???)
these are small things which we usually tend to neglect...but these are of importance.
A small note on counsellors
A counsellor is very cool headed person....... jiski understanding kaafi achi hoti hai problems ki....specially human psychology ko.For psychological problems many counseller are availble....marriage, alchol, studies, youth problems, jobs , career etc
agar by luck u manage to get a "TRUSTABLE" counseller u are v lucky. We can discuss every thing with them like our problems..our mood swings, or any other pvt problems.
When we were kids we used to discuss our probs wth our parents..later with frds or partners. but not all are lucky . some times u dont find a suitable understanding person who can guide us in our problems ....thats where counsellers come into picture.
Taking help of a Understanding counseller with whom we dont have any emotional relation helps a lot. he/she can pinpoint our mistakes or cause of problems. which many times we wont like to admit with our close ones.
counselling is not always related with psychaitric problem. Counselling iss just abt anylysing and sharing our problem with a professional , who can guide us better. If we are discussing our problems with our frds, close ones..its exactly like counselling.( so we do take help from relatives/frds who counsel us)
so whenever if u feel like having some problem....DONT EVER hesitate to take help of counseller. only condition IMO is that that person shd be trustable.
These were my views..lack clarity so for further expert views u can contact any counsellors available.
Ek survey ki hisaab se majority of us need counselling help many times in life.( it can be for any thing..)
Few net links.........:
http://www.counseling.org/
http://www.counseling.mtu.edu/PersonalCounseling.htm
http://www.cincycounseling.com/GCCA%20Useful%20Counseling%20Links.htm
http://www.counselloronline.ca/process.htm
jaisa gautam budha keh gaye hai....." its all in mind" ..so bacha keep ur self health. .
healthy mind healthy body
Open to corrections
god bless
Sonu
PS : Idol ji.....gustakhi maaf.... abt ur signature lines..:...thodi philosphical hai.....but not incouraging. every one knows ...we wer born and willl die 1day.........but no ones wants to be reminded again and again abt this...??? . agar bura na maane to plz do change it.
dear sonu,
thanks for participating and liking this thread...........i'm glad a good and active person is involved here............yes, i wrote those notes.........i gave information about my notes too..........that this might be based on my experience or on studies from Persian books........
about signature..........unfortunately, i am not able to change it for a while................whatever i make in my surrouding ,it has somethin to do with my own life.....................this signature , encourages me(however, u found it discouraging )...........this is the outline of life.........in case u ( me )get too drowned in material world.........seein this gives a big relief......sakoon milta hain....on the other hand, i am at the peak of my education (between university and college) ...........word "success" pushes me forward.............because here, it came 2nd in life's potential steps.........i'm sorry if this signature is not pleasing u..........u may ignore it untill i am done with my finals.............sorry for inconvience
one thing more..........i guess it is not too discouraging.......let me explain what i mean here
Word ...........................Meaning ................................................Conclusion
God.....(the creator, ur ever lasting friend, the beginnin of circle) .....friendship, love (+)
Birth....(orginating, starting an adventure) ....................................Spring, Start (+)
Success( achieving dreams)...................................................... hope, challenge (+)
Old age (a review of past, a chance to seek forgiveness) ..............wisdom,ripen, complete (+)
Death...(new journey out of material life) ....................................dignity,truth unity (+)
God.....(the creator, the ever lasting friend, the end of circle) ........relief, satisfiction, freedom(+)
the effects:
word god, stregthens ur faith, and doesn't let u to get lost in world
word birth, gives u a reminder , dun waste ur time
success, tells u why do u have to live
old age, tells u a big time to seek forgiveness
death, start of a big journey, a trip towards the truth, and ur origin
God, the end of the trip and companionship of the ever lasting friend, while family, loved ones, friends leave u one day, BUT he is always there
Note: never be scared of death, it's not an end, it's a beginning
Islamic quote: Prophet Mohd, PBUH has said, frequently visit graveyard, this will stregthen ur faith and evil cannot get successed on u.
Make the Most of Your Social Circle
Research shows that healthy and supportive relationships can reduce stress and improve your overall health and sense of wellbeing. However, all relationships are not equally supportive. Building a network of supportive friends, or even just one supportive relationship, can be vital to your wellbeing, here are some key skills that can help you to build relationships with people that are truly supportive and sustaining, that will bring great benefits to you and your friends.
Meeting People- The more people you have in your life, the more likely you are to have truly supportive relationships with at least one of them. It's beneficial to be able to regularly add new people to your circle. Here are some http://stress.about.com/od/relationships/a/circleoffriends.htm, and some tips to remember when http://marketing.about.com/od/salestraining/a/salesfriends.htm.
Time Management- It's important to make time to nurture relationships, and to go out and have fun with friends. You may feel like you just don't have time to spend on this, but http://stress.about.com/od/managetimeorganize/ can help you find more time in your life to spend on friendships. These techniques can also help you to show up on time, remember birthdays and other important events, help friends when they're in need, and do other things that will strengthen friendships and make them supportive.
Assertiveness- People often think of http://stress.about.com/od/relationships/p/profileassertiv.htm as 'standing up for yourself' and 'not letting people push you around'—basically the alternative to passivity. While this is mostly true, assertiveness is also the alternative to http://stress.about.com/od/stressmanagementglossary/g/Aggressiveness.htm, a way of handling people where you get your needs met at the expense of others' needs. http://stress.about.com/od/relationships/ht/howtoassert.htm can really help you strengthen your relationships, making them mutually supportive, lasting and opening the lines of communication.
Listening to Your Friends- When we've had a hard day, sometimes being able to talk to a friend about our feelings is all it takes to turn things around and turn stress into a feeling of connection and well-being. Being truly listened to and understood can have profound effects on us. When dealing with friends, it's important to give as well as receive this supportive type of listening when support is truly needed. Here are some things to remember when friends are taling about things that stress or upset them:
My Notes:
Subject: Education
some might agree that education is the biggest happiness in one's life. some people gets to know about value of education after teen life, but some knows right at the beginning. This topic is common. when ur little child in grade 3 or 4, u write pargraphs about "education" without understanding the meaning. It is all over the place, but an indepth study will reveal some new ideas that we hardly think about.
if ur a rich family's son/daughter, ur forced to study. well, force might not be a good word, but ur education life is already schedualed. mom and dad have already decided about u, which is a blessing. But, those who are born in a poor family, their mom and dad have no time to think about education as they are busy to feed u. slowly, as u grow up, u learn that education is so important in life. u struggle for that while u can't afford it. u want to have it at any cost, but financial status does not help u to achive ur goal. here comes the disaster that some quit, but some keeps working hard and hits their goal.
people believe what u struggle for has better taste than what u get as a granted. when a poor family's child gets his/her degree, that's the happiest moment of his/her life. however, it might be the same with rich child, but slightly different. rich child might cheer caoz he/she completed mom and dad's dream. poor child will cheer because he got what he was dreaming for. therefore, education is the biggest happiness in life in everyone's life.
What is evolutionary psychology?
In the three and a half centuries since William Harvey proved that the purpose of the heart is to pump blood, physiologists have revealed the functional organization of the body in blinding detail. Their discoveries demonstrate beyond question that the structure of the body serves survival and reproduction. Further, there is near unanimity among biologists that this functional structure is a product of natural selection. In our century, psychologists have developed powerful techniques that conclusively demonstrate that cognition, too, has structure. Evolutionary psychologists are betting that cognitive structure, like physiological structure, has been designed by natural selection to serve survival and reproduction.
Evolutionary psychology focuses on the evolved properties of nervous systems, especially those of humans. Because virtually all tissue in living organisms is functionally organized, and because this organization is the product of evolution by natural selection, a major presumption of evolutionary psychology is that the brain, too, is functionally organized, and best understood in evolutionary perspective. It is clear that the body is composed of a very large number of parts, and that each part is highly specialized to perform a specific function in service of the survival and reproduction of the organism. Using the body as a model for the brain, it is a fair guess that the brain, too, is composed of one or more functional parts, each of which is also specialized to facilitate the survival and reproduction of the organism (we'll get to genes in a bit). Thus, according to evolutionary psychology, neural tissue is no different from any other tissue: it is functionally organized to serve survival and reproduction. This is the foundational assumption of evolutionary psychology. Because vision, hearing, smell, pain, and motor control are indisputable functions of the nervous system that clearly have utility for survival and reproduction, this assumption has a high degree of face validity. Further, these examples suggests that the brain may best be conceived not as an organ with a single function, but rather as composed of a large, and potentially vast number of functional parts. Evolutionary biologists refer to the functional components of organisms as 'adaptations'. Evolutionary psychologists often refer to brain functions as psychological adaptations, although they are not qualitatively different from other adaptations.
The functional organization of the body has been elucidated primarily by the direct examination of morphology. A detailed analysis of the structure and composition of our organs and tissues has resulted in an excellent understanding of their purpose. Unfortunately, this has not been the case with the brain. The gross morphology of the brain appears to have little connection with its functional properties. Although we have a fair understanding of nerve cells--the primary constituents of neural tissue--the properties of the brain clearly come from higher order assemblages of such cells, not just the cells themselves. This is just as true of organs like the heart as it is of the brain. Because nerve cells can rapidly change state (e.g., their firing rate), because such state-changes involve little energy, and because they can be well insulated from their neighbors, it is possible for a nerve cell to be in one state, whereas some of its close neighbors may be in completely different states. This is in marked contrast to, say, muscle cells. If one muscle cell is involved in a contraction, then nearby cells almost certainly are as well. Neural tissue is quite different. Even the individual states of nerve cells in a network depend critically on the topology of the network itself. Further, assemblages that are actually distinct may have a complex three-dimensional distribution that can be very difficult to untangle. These properties of neural tissue make it exceedingly difficult to "see" the morphology of neural assemblages--with few exceptions, the network topology of virtually our entire brain is currently "invisible." It exists at a scale above the individual cell, but well below that which can be teased apart with any imaging technology currently available. Until recent decades, much of our immune system was similarly "invisible."
Evolutionary psychology offers one way around this technological limitation. If researchers had a sound basis for proposing brain functions a priori, they could then seek indirect evidence that brains in fact have these functional properties. Philosophers and scientists had long wondered why living things are made up of an amazing array of beautifully designed mechanisms, an organization which non-living things completely lack. Why is it that entities that reproduce manifest overwhelming evidence of design, but entities that don't reproduce are utterly devoid of the same? As Darwin and Wallace first perceived, the association of reproduction and design is not accidental. Evolution by natural selection is currently accepted as the only process whereby entities can acquire functional properties. Functional organization is the consequence of the reproductive feedback that characterizes natural selection. If a population of reproducing entities (hereafter organisms) varies in some trait, if the variations can be passed on to offspring, and if, as a consequence of possessing a particular variant, an organism produces more offspring on average than organisms that lack that variant over evolutionary time, then the population will come to consist solely of organisms possessing the reproductively efficacious variant trait. In this way, populations of organisms will tend to acquire traits that facilitate reproduction and lose traits that hinder reproduction.
We now know that what is passed on to offspring is a large DNA molecule that is further partitioned into numerous sections called genes. Because the structure of this DNA is intimately bound up with the structure of the organism, variations in the DNA are strongly associated with variations in the organism. Changes in DNA are referred to as mutations, and result from environmental hazards such as radiation, toxins, etc.
Reproduction is an enormously complex process. At any given moment in the human body, there are thousands of process that, should they fail to complete successfully, would result in death within minutes. For this reason, any given random change in the body is likely to hinder survival and reproduction, not facilitate it. There are far more ways for a mechanism to fail than there are ways to improve it. How many times has a change occurred to your car so that it got much higher than the EPA estimated miles-per-gallon rather than much lower? Thus, the vast majority of DNA mutations result in changes to the body (also called the phenotype) that hinder reproduction. Occasionally, however, a mutation occurs that results in a change to the phenotype that facilitates reproduction. Because this mutation can be passed on to offspring, and because this mutation tends to result in more offspring, the mutation becomes more frequent in the population. Over time, this process will result in organisms that have a sophisticated repertoire of mechanisms that facilitate reproduction
We now have the answer to the question posed above: what functions is the brain likely to perform? If brain tissue is organized like all other tissue, it will perform precisely those functions that facilitate reproduction. More accurately, because evolution by natural selection is an historical process, and because the future cannot be predicted, the brain and body will perform functions that facilitated reproduction (note the past tense). Whether they currently do so will depend on how closely the present resembles the past. If we can develop an accurate picture of a species' reproductive ecology--the set of physical transformations that had to occur over evolutionary time for individuals to reproduce--we can infer those properties the organism is likely to have in order to ensure that those transformations reliably took place. Evolutionary time, the time it takes for reproductively efficacious mutations to arise and spread in the population, is often taken to be roughly 1000-10,000 generations; for humans, that equals about 20,000-200,000 years. Over the last 200,000 years, humans regularly encountered spiders and snakes, creatures whose toxins would have significantly impeded the reproduction of individuals unlucky enough to get injected with them. Over the last 100 years, humans have regularly encountered automobiles, encounters that also can seriously impede reproduction (e.g., by getting run over). Because 200,000 years is long enough for humans to evolve protective mechanisms, but 100 years isn't, we can predict that humans may well possess an innate aversion to spiders and snakes, but not to automobiles--even though far more people are currently killed by cars than by spiders or snakes. Once we have firmly established that avoiding spiders and snakes would have reliably facilitated the reproduction of ancestral humans, we can then design experiments to determine whether humans in fact possess an innate, cognitive ability to detect and avoid these animals (more on how to do this below). A major lesson of evolutionary psychology is that if you want to understand the brain, look deeply at the environment of our ancestors as focused through the lens of reproduction. If the presumptions of evolutionary psychology are correct, the structure of our brains should closely reflect our ancestral reproductive ecology. Thus, evolutionary psychology provides a method for perceiving the functional organization of the brain by studying the world--currently a far more tractable problem than disentangling neural assemblages.
http://www.anth.ucsb.edu/projects/human/epfaq/ep.html
http://nyneurosurgery.org/images/neuroanatomy_fig12.gif
evolutionay psychology basically explains ....how human beings evolved over the time period....how it adopted special traits for survival..........the core study:
ANGER
I don't know that every information i am sharing here is new to you or not. Let's assume it's new for some.....
I have watched a Documentary on Anger in "Nature of things by David Suzuki"..& and i had Psych class on Human behavior and Brain..i learned those with extreme anger :
We all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. This brochure is meant to help you understand and control anger. What is Anger?
The Nature of Anger
Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.
Expressing Anger
The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.
On the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common sense place limits on how far our anger can take us.
People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.
Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationships.
Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside. As Dr. Spielberger notes, "when none of these three techniques work, that's when someone—or something—is going to get hurt."
Anger Management
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.
Are You Too Angry?
There are psychological tests that measure the intensity of angry feelings, how prone to anger you are, and how well you handle it. But chances are good that if you do have a problem with anger, you already know it. If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and frightening, you might need help finding better ways to deal with this emotion.
Why Are Some People More Angry Than Others?
According to Jerry Deffenbacher, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in anger management, some people really are more "hotheaded" than others are; they get angry more easily and more intensely than the average person does. There are also those who don't show their anger in loud spectacular ways but are chronically irritable and grumpy. Easily angered people don't always curse and throw things; sometimes they withdraw socially, sulk, or get physically ill.
People who are easily angered generally have what some psychologists call a low tolerance for frustration, meaning simply that they feel that they should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance. They can't take things in stride, and they're particularly infuriated if the situation seems somehow unjust: for example, being corrected for a minor mistake.
What makes these people this way? A number of things. One cause may be genetic or physiological: There is evidence that some children are born irritable, touchy, and easily angered, and that these signs are present from a very early age. Another may be sociocultural. Anger is often regarded as negative; we're taught that it's all right to express anxiety, depression, or other emotions but not to express anger. As a result, we don't learn how to handle it or channel it constructively. Research has also found that family background plays a role. Typically, people who are easily angered come from families that are disruptive, chaotic, and not skilled at emotional communications.
Is It Good To "Let it All Hang Out?"
Psychologists now say that this is a dangerous myth. Some people use this theory as a license to hurt others. Research has found that "letting it rip" with anger actually escalates anger and aggression and does nothing to help you (or the person you're angry with) resolve the situation. It's best to find out what it is that triggers your anger, and then to develop strategies to keep those triggers from tipping you over the edge.
Strategies To Keep Anger At Bay
Relaxation
Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.
Some simple steps you can try:
Abraham Maslow's humanistic approach....
at level one, we only need food, shelter and other basic needs.....at level two, we need safety....level three, we need love and acceptance from society and people in our life....level four, close to peak, we need self esteem, love for self........and top, peak we can be at the best we are...self understanding...that's how Maslow thinks about human personality.....
we control stress in two ways: active and passive
passive............avoid the problem ......watch a movie/sleep/call a friend/go out.......result: pain is fooled, but problem is there
active:
emotion focused: ....search the problem, re-interpret it, seek soial support......result: less pain, problem is still there....
problem focused: ...find the problem, gather information, find ways...............result: less stress, problem may solve
proactive coping:........recognize the source you get stress from, fix it......result: no pain, no problem
low level of serotonin in brain.....................more depression/stress/violance
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Very very absorbing topics. Thanx 4 sharing IDOL.
Noorie
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